I’m happy to report that Brian has been given an ‘all clear’ from the vet. He needs to be watched, of course, but he’s alive and well. We have resumed our training – it’s really hard and it helps that I know lots of dog owners with ‘naughty’ dogs. Some of them are qualified trainers. So, even though I do despair at times, I am generally able to reason with myself and stay calm at all times around Brian.
I talk to ‘problematic dogs’ owners on a daily basis. Most really difficult dogs end up in shelters -and I rarely judge the owners. We all struggle sometimes. And it gets even more difficult when we feel we need to pretend that all is well, that we’re coping, that we don’t doubt ourselves and don’t feel like a failure. The point is: feeling negative about yourself is counter-effective.
I have never had a ‘normal’ dog. All ended up being relatively well, but it had always been a long and difficult process to get them to the point where we would both feel comfortable.
Also: I’m never really ‘ready’ for another challenge. I learn all the time, mostly about myself. This is my life, my choice and my idea of fulfillment.
The message of the post is really: ‘the owners of difficult dogs -unite’ 🙂 It helps to know you’re not alone. And that it will all be fine.