Is good difficult and bad easy?


The definition of ‘good’ and ‘bad’ differs. It depends on the cultural background, other people’s expectations, context and even our personal code of behaviour. Often ‘bad’ means just: ‘an otherwise acceptable behaviour, but done in the wrong place, at the wrong time’.

Good and bad habits are equally easy (or difficult) to form. They need rewarding, repeating, reinforcing ( sometimes also: redirecting). Easy to remember, easy to do.

Brian barks. As (some) dogs have been bred for years to be guards, it’s not a feature that is necessarily bad. There’s nothing obsessive about barking when someone invades the space that a dog is meant to defend/guard. Yet, sometimes, I like people to visit me, so Brian needs to learn to bark less (he’s getting there, one woof at a time).

His mouthing is pretty much gone now. Nipping at people’s legs (even once is once too many) is my biggest concern, so I will work on that till I’m absolutely sure it will never happen again. Mouthing and nipping at ankles are two different types of behaviour and need to be addressed separately (that’s a good articleΒ BTW)

She can do all the tricks, but obedient she is not!

If you ever wonder why I hardly ever write about training Lily: my husband is wrapped around her little claw, she’s his little princess and there’s no way I can spoil this perfect, abusive relationship. To make things perfectly clear: she is the abuser. My husband has been dominated by cats for years so he just treats Lily like yet another cat. Just cuter and more manipulative (she needs protection, ‘she didn’t mean it, just look at her little face’)

Lily is easy to train but she is not stupid and is not going to work for the rewards she can have for free.



7 thoughts on “Is good difficult and bad easy?

  1. Us humans just love to put labels on things don’t we? Good or bad, gay or straight , young or old, Tory or labour! What would we do without labels? Mmmm well that’s for another discussion!
    Brian sounds a character . Whatever he is or isn’t , he’s yours, he brings love and reward to your life and Brian must love his life with you guys. Whatever label people may use to describe him , he is just Brian ! Keep posting. Thankyou πŸ˜€πŸΆπŸ™πŸ»

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    1. We do like labels, true. They help us organise the world around us, so there is a reason behind it. But, as many people, I don’t think any label can define us. I’ve never even met a dog that would respond in the same way to training/therapy as any other dog, so I doubt there are two people in the world who could be the same πŸ™‚ I celebrate the individual πŸ™‚

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    1. I need to work with Lily. My husband thinks she’s cute when she’s bossy, but now he finds it hard to walk Brian and Lily together (I don’t seem to have a problem). The thing is, plenty of people see it as ‘cute’ when she’s barking and not listening to commands (well, it does look funny, she’s a tiny, sweet dog). The only way to explain that she needs to behave is to ask them: ‘would it still be funny if she was a Rottweiler?’ Working with dogs around people is the hardest: dogs are easy, people are difficult πŸ˜‰

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      1. We have the same issue with cats: my husband spoiled Beba rotten, and now he complains that she has no manners, while Barmalei is so well behaved! I agree with you about people, too. “She is so cute and fluffy” is the first reaction of first-time guests who are itching to pet this fluffiness. They don’t realize that cats bite and scratch while playing.

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