Visualisation as a technique involving forming positive images to achieve a particular goal is used in many areas of life. It’s not a post on how to do it (positive, present, detailed is pretty much enough, though) but I thought I’d mention it as I do it a lot when I want something from my dogs.
I have a perfect, detailed image of what I want my dog to be, I’ve seen it in my head many times. Curious and independent but reasonably well-behaved and attentive, responsive but thinking for himself. Playful and full of life but not vicious or aggressive. Reliable and confident that he can rely on me.
Each of my actions can bring me closer to this image. Or set us back. So before I react, I check my reaction against the image. Would it work, would it make Brian (or Lily) associate the situation with what I intend to? If not, why-and what can I change?
I believe there’s always a way to get to my goal. But I do need to know the goal first.